Has it happened in your life, when you were sitting next to your best friend, you were laughing and having fun, then suddenly, you stop, look into his eyes and realize, “God, I’m in love with my best friend.”?
Nowadays, having romantic feelings for your best friend isn’t as much of a shocker as it did years ago. Now, it may be called the virus for it affect all sorts of people- People from all walks of life. It does not pick its victim. It comes in the most unexpected manner, most especially when you don’t want any of it, even just a drop.
Here are the characteristic of what a best friend used to be. He/She is someone:
- who’s always there for you. In good times, and in bad.
- who you can be weird and crazy with, without making it awkward.
- who knows you like the back of his/her hand.
- who you can be comfortable with even when you’re not talking.
- who knows and accepts all of you, even your flaws.
- who’s protective of you like a brother, and a good listener like a sister.
- who you’ve been with in the most important parts of your life.
- who never left your side.
Are these the reasons why people love their best friends? Yes, it may be; for these are the characteristics that we look for in someone. But most people have forgotten the heaviest definition of a best friend.
- Someone you should not fall in love with.
But same as a virus acts, some still catch the disease even after having vaccines to protect oneself. Those who got it, either get hurt, or be happy. But most of the time, it’s the former.
Why do we get hurt? Why can’t it be just love you, love me, and let’s be happy?
We learn to love a best friend, but most of the time..
- He has someone else in his heart
How can he love you when he’s happily in love in someone else’s arm? He can’t see you because his vision is clouded with his girl and his love for her.
- He doesn’t want a relationship
He may be an immature guy who’s busy enjoying his life. He doesn’t want anything strings attached because he believes it’s only going to bring him down. He’d rather be flirting with people, than be with someone who’s going to restrict him from enjoying his freedom. But it may also be because he’s too concerned and blinded by his dreams, that it becomes his priority instead of love.
- You’re in the friend zone.
The second to the worst cases of this virus. He just sees you as his best friend and nothing all. You’re his confidante, the one who knows almost everything that’s been happening in his life. You are his buddy. His best friend. And you can’t be more than than.
- He loves you too, but he just can’t risk the friendship and all of it for a love where promises and forever may end.
This is the worst. He fears that if something wrong happens in the relationship, he will lose not just a lover, but also his best friend. He loves and values you more than his need for a relationship.
- You love him, he loves you.
What everyone longs for. Loving and beloved. A bonus because he’s your best friend. But this case is rare. Not everyone receives this wonderful stage of the disease. And I know, all of us hopes to do so.
But what you don’t know is the exact moment you fall for your best friend, things won’t never be the same again. Things change and so do you. The friendship becomes as broken as a shattered glass.
Don’t worry, there still are times that it’s not yet too broken to lose. Sometimes, you’re able to catch the virus before it even begins to spread further. But if even a drop of it escapes your grip, expect that the disease will become fatal.
Although these are said, not all scenarios are the same. You should not easily give up. Don’t forget to take everything into consideration. And always keep this question in mind,
“Where we last longer?”
Answer it and you’ll know the answer. Also, the most important thing to remember is..
“If you know you’re gonna lose him in the process of backing off nonetheless, why not just do it with an effort and a fight?”
So love with all you heart, but have your mind as your armor and your shield.
Have you gotten the virus, or are you its the next victim?
- Posted:1 year ago
It’s playing right now on MTV, and I just have a few comments to share.
I have nothing against the song lyrics, because I know it’s a very good one, and nothing’s wrong with it.
My concern is its music video. I love the last part cause it makes my heart break. Yes, a masochist, indeed. But I find it wrong when her husband asked her how her day went, and she just ignored him. I expect it to be the same everyday. She wallows up in sadness, shows lack of love for her husband, making him feel shit. It’s just wrong. Plain wrong.
If she knows she still loves another, she should not have married another in the first place. It’s okay if she will be able to render her role as his wife. But clearly, she hasn’t. It’s just unfair for her husband. He must have been hurting all this time, waiting for the day she’ll finally love him. She passed onto him here misery.
IT WASN’T FAIR. AT. ALL.
So if you know you’re not over someone else, don’t jump into a relationship just because you think it will solve your misery.Because it won’t. Or neither because you’re scared of hurting the one who’s been waiting for you. Because you’re just gonna add to his anguish. Okay?
Stop being selfish.
- Posted:1 year ago
Once upon a time, I saw Venus and the moon together
It just amazed me, then I began to wonder
How long would this favourite things of mine last
Would it still be there tomorrow for me to watch?
The next night I went out to see, and I was right
Venus and the moon were there but not up tight
It’s really scary but amazing too
How one day they’re together, the next, the other’s out of the blue
I came back every night hoping to see them again
Beside each other like long lost friends
Maybe it was my predicament for having lost
Too many relationships that I’ve valued most
One day he was always next to me
The next he’s just a face in the crowd that I seldom see
It’s heart-rending to see how things change fast
How I thought those friendships would come to last
They did not, and now I have to get over it
I have to live my life with no regrets, no anything
I have to take chances and stop being afraid
Because everything that has happened was brought down by fate
Maybe Venus and the Moon won’t ever be together
But still they shine in the night sky with a lesson for us to ponder
They make look good beside each other
But that’s just not the way it will be for them forever
Well share this story to people you knew
Maybe it will comfort them the way it comforted me too
Just tell them that I once saw Venus and the moon together
It just amazed me then I began to wonder…
- Posted:1 year ago